The Singleness Series | Single and Brave

Single And Brave

Welcome to the Singleness Series, friends. I am honestly and truly glad you’re here…and I hope that these posts are a blessing and encouragement to you, no matter what your stage of life is. Many of my favorite bloggers have already shared what it means to be Single and Significant, Thriving, Content, Seeking and Intentional.

Today, another one of my dear friends – Lauren Hanson – is boldly opening up her heart with us, and writing about what it means to be brave with Jesus. This post is amazing, my friends…just amazing. She so beautifully articulates why it’s okay to be honest with God about everything – our hurts and hopes. Her words are ones I wish I had read when I was single.

Let’s be brave with Jesus, yes?

Hello there, I’m Lauren! I blog, along with my husband, over at Abiding Marriage. I love Jesus, His bride the Church, and the Gospel. We created Abiding Marriage because we desire to have a community where there can be authentic conversations about marriage and faith. We still have so much to learn about abiding in Christ toward oneness in marriage. We are in no way the experts. As D.T. Niles once said, we are merely “one beggar telling another beggar where to find bread.”

Rachel has been such a blessing to me. I love her heart to serve through this blog. This series in particular just rings true to her heart for you, her readers and people who are walking through a journey of singleness. We were privileged to have her guest post on Abiding Marriage a while back, and I am honored and majorly humbled to have the chance to share here.

So here I am, a blogger who writes mostly about marriage being asked to write about singleness. What possible insight could I have that you have not already heard? I really wrestled with what I felt like God was wanting me to add to the conversation.

I’m not interested in telling you what steps you need to take to find a husband. I’m not going to share ten things you should do while you are still single. I’m not going to share with you how I found contentment in singleness because honestly? I never did.

I do want to let tell you that it’s okay to be honest with your feelings about being single.

If you are single and thriving, praise Jesus. If you are single and hurting, praise Jesus. I want to free you to admit that being single is hard. That it is okay to not be okay with being single. I want you to be openly honest with God that you are hurting and lonely and feel forgotten as all your friends walk down the aisle.

Jesus can handle your emotions. Jesus can handle your doubts about His goodness when you feel forgotten. Jesus can handle your honest cries to Him. And He will move into those hurt places. He wants to be invited into the deep crevices of your heart.

That is what having a relationship with God is all about. He wants our honest and real faith. Even when that doesn’t sound pretty and makes us ugly cry. He wants us to tell Him what we are afraid of or angry about.

Let’s be brave enough to ask God what we really want and trust Him to answer back. If you are single and desire a spouse, ask Him! Don’t sugar coat it. Don’t feel pressure to say the right things in the right way. Just talk to Him. Lean into Him. Be brave enough to let Him take it from there.

Be brave enough to believe that ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR OUR BEAUTY (Romans 8:28, emphasis mine) … the hurts and the joys. As believers, we are never promised a life without suffering, but we are promised that our present suffering will not compare to the future glory we will experience. It will all be worth it when we see Jesus face to face.

This bravery doesn’t just exist in the prayers for a spouse. It’s necessary in whatever you are facing that you bring before the Lord. A need for healing. A child. A reconciled relationship. Anything and everything we ask God, takes bravery from us, to surrender our control and ask Him what we inwardly and so helplessly desire. Jesus wants to hear it all. Let’s be brave enough to tell Him.

Being brave with you,

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19 thoughts on “The Singleness Series | Single and Brave

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  2. Amen! This is a wonderful post, and has so much truth! It is okay to have feelings about any situation that aren’t considered the “norm”, and we shouldn’t feel bad about them. We as a community need to be supportive of people and their feelings no matter what we think they “should” be feeling. Wonderful post Lauren, and Rachel I am LOVING this series ❤

    • Hey Megan! Thanks for reading and your encouragement. This was and is a hard lesson for to learn to let people have feelings that I don’t agree with. I want to quickly correct their wrong thought instead of trusting that God is working through their emotions. People need to feel like they can be honest without getting corrected immediately. Thanks for our comment!

  3. I love that Lauren said what most people don’t say – that yes, it can be really hard to be single! It can be frustrating to see pressure put on single people in our society…to either be wonderfully happy as a single person if you can’t seem to meet someone. But – just like marriage – it has its good days and bad ones!

    • Thanks for your comment Grace! Freedom to be real with your feelings is so important. Even in other stages of life other than singleness!

  4. “But we are promised that our present suffering will not compare to the future glory we will experience” – Amen! Thank you Lauren for sharing!! We (I) get so caught up in making everything beautiful and perfect – but He wants us to come to Him just as we are.

    • Sarah, you’re absolutely right. Jesus’ grace is truly amazing, because even though He is flawless and perfect, He doesn’t demand the same of us. That’s why there’s the Cross…so that His perfection takes the place of our mess and we are free to come to Him as we are.
      Thank you for following along with the series, friend!

  5. Beautifully written! I’ve learned that giving up control is one of the hardest things–but it’s oh so important in order for us to allow God to work in our lives! Love this series, Rachel! Thanks for sharing your heart today, Lauren!

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